Thursday, November 12, 2009

The river

The river is always there
the same one
but it is never
the same
for even a second
never will a moment repeat
no boundaries to the patterns
it can create
none
its relationship with the coast never exact
the people, insects, dog shits, trees along the way
constantly in flux
it flows into an ocean
that constantly moves
towards ever shifting continents
on a spinning earth
the earths relation to the heavens
though it can come close will never exactly mimic now
this moment is it
are you enjoying it?



Wednesday, November 11, 2009

A mothers tears

The rain falls on the AC
Tapping out morse code for all
The soft pitterpat of desperation
The cry for help
For mother natures tears
Formulate the rain
And she is in danger of the gravest sort
Sadly she cries out to her oppressors
Who in a twist of fate
Will die if they finish the deed

Friday, November 6, 2009

He took me to the show

He took me to the show
The speudo Artists sang
By this point it was cast umpteen
Featuring the D lister du jour
I felt their village pain
I lived in the suburbs
But I knew how they felt
As they died of AIDS
He took me cause I asked
His english not so great
He asked me why a guy was playing Angel
He assumed the character a girl
His boredom palpable he tolerated the show
He'd just learned I was gay
He wanted a weekend
A weekend to fulfill the failures
That caused my fruity state
I took him to the Larson show
My point resolute

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Think Happy Thoughts Part II

My early childhood pre going to school was idyllic. I had three really close friends, two boys who lived next door Matthew and Justin and then a friend of my parents daughter Antigone. Matthew and Justin were athletic kids and I would play sports with them and they didn't even make fun of me. They were typical boys boys, and that would be the last time in my life I would ever be comfortable in that crowd. We would play for hours on end until the sun came down. Antigone did not live next door but wed visit her so much she might as well have. As kids the two of us were joined at the hip. Her mother used to joke that one day we would get married. I clung to that joke as fact because at four/five playing with Antigone my whole life sounded really appealing. We used to harass our younger siblings together and when we weren't doing that I would make her take on roles and create little dramas with me. When I entered school I didnt see Matthew and Justin as much, soon afterwards, they moved out of the neighbourhood.

School was different the idyllic view of people that I had had was starting to wear down. For whatever reason I was immediately targeted and within weeks of starting elementary school my role at the bottom of the social chain had been cemented. I still don't know why I was targeted at that point, i don't know if I was seen as faggy or what I mean I was six so I don't see how I could have been. Regardless I was informed that I spread Kosta germs and was avoided because they make people sick.

Just about every evening though after school I would see Antigone my future wife, she went to a different school so hadn't been warned about Kosta germs, I hope I never made her sick. I never told her they didn't like me at school, we just played.

When I got the news it hit me like a pound of bricks. I was being abandoned. Antigone's father had gotten a job in Greece and their whole family would be moving to the other end of the world. My comprehension of Greece was at that point this magical fantastical land where a lot of my family lived and where people who loved me lived but that was too expensive for us to go to. Seeing Antigone in Greece at the time seemed at the time as fantastical as the idea of one day seeing my Grandfather in heaven.

Matthew, Justin and Antigone had all left my life, in their place was six hours a day of being run away from. From that point on it would be about ten years before I would receive a sense of being wanted by someone my own age again.

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

My High School Best Friend

He was the smartest
most counter culture, craziest
articulate
profound
his pants made of a sofa from
the seventies
the material necessary to rival Dolce and Gabbanna
his filthy beard
truly a kings mane
his energy on the dance floor
the movement of his hips
a religious experience
mom said he smelled
dad said he was a freak
this made him more thrilling still
he taught me to question
he taught me to think
he taught me to argue
perhaps mom and dad were right
perhaps he lived in the suburbs
perhaps there was irony in his cell phone
but what he gave me will never cease
to be a part of me



A Village of Artists

A village of artists,
collectively and individually creating,
worlds, ideas, social movements
condemning all things mainstream
fighting to prove they are the weirdest
amongst the strange
taking pride in every old lady they intimidate
these are now the hippies of my generation
someone I recall
someone I once was
someone I still know
but someone from the past
they raised the rent


Monday, September 28, 2009

the lost paddle

I lost my paddle
lost it a time ago
and the further down stream I went the more lost I became
Somehow though I managed to use my arms
to claw at the few stray branches along the river
and thusly pull myself upstream
through the torrent rain
and all extremes
I found my bearings and momentum grew
I knew I would survive and find my way
home
But every moment passing now and then
another wave sets me back towards where I began
but never do I allow a wave
to send me back fully from whence I came

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Greyhound to the Garden

David had seen it all before, the greyhound station on George to the YMCA next door. In high school he had friends who went to the thrift store there. He knew the trees and he knew the smell of the Quaker Oats factory. This smell meant he was within minutes of his family. Despite the familiarity though it felt strange for him to be here. He had fought so hard to escape this place. He had saved so much for his move to New York two years prior, he had managed to avoid returning up until now, and the sight of everything though warm and nostalgic reminded him of all the tension he left behind.

His bus was early and he knew his father who had agreed to pick him up would come now if he called but he chose not to. Instead he resolutely reached into his overly worn messenger bag (he had paid a lot of money for it once though one would never know it) and he found at the bottom, below all the paper work he had "filed" a metallic cigarette case with an image of the Beatles adorning the cover. He bought it with a gift certificate from an ex who hated that he smoked after their relationship ended. He loved little bits of irony like this and went to large extremes for them.

Calmly David lit a cigarette and began to inhale, his father would be there soon but for now David was happy to just stand next to the greyhound station alone. An elderly woman got off the same bus. She had flaming red hair, which was in no way natural, and lipstick that had been applied far more liberally to her teeth then any other place. She approached David and let out a shriek.

"David" said the woman "Davy Pappas".
 
David had been found his anonymity shattered.

"How are you Mrs. O'Hara" he said to his third grade English teacher who had unfortunately recognized him. He had always been her favourite though he never understood why and the way she favoured him led the other kids to be so cruel. He had always wished she would be as mean to him as she was to everyone else.

"Are you living in Toronto now" she asked, it made sense that was where he last transferred buses.

-No New York actually
-Oh
-Yeah I moved there two years ago, right after I finished at Trent
-Well that's wonderful, I always knew you would do great things
-Thank you Mrs. O'Hara

David did not hate people, nor did he hate his town, If you asked David about Peterborough in New York he would tell you romantic, wonderful things about it, but being here at this time alone for him brought great strain.



A black lexis pulled into the greyhound parking lot, in nineteen eighty five it was a beautiful car but this was two thousand and one. In the drivers seat sat a man, This was David's father John. John was not a very tall man, he had a grey moustache and little hair. He also had about him though a quiet, stoic, dignity that David had always admired as a child.

John was proud, he was proud of his courage to leave home for Canada in the late seventies, he was proud to own both his house and restaurant, mortgaged as they were. He was proud of his family and all that he had achieved. David saw this and was inspired, he would not have come out had it not been for John, nor would he have gone to New York or pursued screenwriting. John taught him that whatever you want is attainable and that you need to control your life.

John didn't exit the car, instead he honked. He loved to honk.

David opened the door and sat in the seat next to John.

-How are you

John asked

-I'm fine

David replied

-mana mou

said John. They didn't say another word the rest of the way home.

Ellen was David's mother, she was tall and strong, but also very youthful and pretty. The perfect word to describe Ellen was grace. As John and David pulled into the driveway Ellen was folding laundry in the living room window as she always did. David sometimes got the image that she was always there waiting for her children to return like a light house keeper waiting for the boats. When they walked in the door she immediately dropped the socks she had been working on and leapt to embrace her son.

David was emphatic in the way he hugged his mother. He truly was so happy to be there with her. This trip would be good, thought David, he had his stresses but it would be good.

David placed his bags in his old bedroom. The suit of armour his aunt Jane had bought him for his eleventh birthday still stood guarding his bed. The king Arthur poster giving a detailed bio of every round table warrior still hung above it. Something was missing though, the bed was made and there was no clothing scattered across the room. This gave the room a haunted quality for David, that is the only way he could describe it.


Once Mary his sister had gotten back they all got together around a table.  On the table was all the evidence of Ellen's immense talent in the kitchen. There was spanakopita, calamari, shrinp,  chicken stefado, lamb, and rice. It didn't matter that none of these things were part of the same meal but they were all David's favourites. God forbid she spread them over the weekend. Mary was asked to say grace. She rolled her eyes. Ellen was not impressed.

-Mary, okay I'll say them

and then she did.

-Oh heavenly father, we thank you for this food we are about to receive and for the hands that have prepared it. We thank you for this fellowship, for bringing all three of my children together this night after two years. We thank you for David and pray that he will find his way back to you.

Amen


He


I don't want to hear about it, I want to know that you are working. That's it, I don't give a shit about your relationship. I don't give a shit. I just want you to stop being embarrassment for your family. I will never be okay, it never happens. I don't want to see you, I don't want to talk to you. It hurting me he said. This is no normal. How is my gene this.  My gene is no this. He said.

Unlike before this time he was cold, he could find no warmth and when he went through his memory all he could think of was how he was always made to feel like he failed to deliver.


Monday, August 31, 2009

ADDICTION

It's an addiction she said. You will never have children and never know the love I feel, you will get aids and die, you can never be happy. You are going to kill your father, you are selfish and don't even care how your choices affect others. She said all these things and more. She also told him how much she loved him and how she was sure Robert was a good person. She told him that her love for him was unconditional.

He remembered every play she attended, every recital she sat through and rehearsal she drove him to. He did not question her love, in fact he reciprocated all of that, when he told her about the engagement the pain it brought her brought him more pain than anyone could imagine. The knowledge that he would never find joy without bringing her pain was too much for him. He wished he was five years old and believed in god again.


Thursday, August 27, 2009

Think happy thoughts

When I was four I used to wear out the tape of three different video cassettes, The first was Mary Poppins, the second was Peter Pan and the third was Hook. The amount I would watch these movies was to my fathers chagrin. We had the entire disney collection up to that point and my mother, was constantly adding to it. For whatever reason though my energy was fixated on those three films. I too wanted to fly, I wanted to soar and it was no mistake that all three films featured a true free spirit who comes in to change and free those around them. Mary Poppins was an angel thats what I believed, she came to free the Banks children from the box that was stifling their childhood. Peter was the same he was also a figure who existed to deliver childhood to children being raised without it. In Hook it is Neverland that teaches Peter Banning to stop and see wonder in his life again.

    My father wanting me to stop driving him crazy with these films one day sat me down. He was Greek, and still is. When he speaks his words are spare and to the point. I clearly did not get this characteristic. He sat me down and with his thick accent said.

Kosta
Peter Pan and Mary Poppins are no real,
It is pretend, his name is Robin Williams and her name is Julia.... it does no matter.
They is no real, it is called acting they are pretending

I was crushed, and then my little four year old brain started to spin and I realized something, I too could never grow up, I could be an actor. My mind never wavered on the concept.

Peterborough, Ontario was a fascinating place to be a young actor. Every suburban inch of it. Peterborough was founded by the Algonquin and Missisauga Nations but its white history came when politician Peter Robinson from York(Toronto) formed an ambitious plan to bring poor Irish workers in from Britain to work the land in Peterborough. It has remained very Irish, very protestant and very blue collar. I grew up smelling the oats baking at the Quaker factory and hearing people at my parents restaurant, at the time a Pizzeria complain about paying union dues. I saw this simple Norman Rockwell town of at the time 64000 its now at nearly 90 as a place Peter Pan would come take you away from so you could see what existed beyond it.

Peter never came, but that just made me improvise, I asked my Aunt  Jaqueline who was the best seamstress I knew to make me a Peter Pan costume. She made me a hunter green felt tunic and bought a pair of green ballet tights. I was in heaven. I would put the costume on and tell my family that Kosta had gone to never land and I was here in his place. And I did I went to Neverland, I met the lost boys, I had friends and adventures with other kids and it didnt matter that in my real life I was in Peterborough.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

The garden

As the bus approaches the grounds on which I grew
The garden in which I spawned
Before I shed the roots
I suddenly have a realization
A knowledge
An awakening
I see that my roots simply grew longer
I know that I will now be forced to answer
For a life lived in a way that fulfills me
I will be made to feel guilt for my happiness
They ask me why I return so rarely

She

She was free
Free of her generation
Free of preconceptions
Free of convention
She dressed in gowns and sheared her hair
She never assumed a person was straight
She never assumed an individual with an Adams apple was male
Or one with breasts female
She left it to them to tell her what they were
The only thing she found intolerable was intolerance.

Value

I used to feel value
As though I somehow had something to offer
Someone
Equating value with money
Leaves me in the bargain bin
I am the marked down item no one needs for free
Worse still I am a leach sucking the blood out of those
Who give value to my dreams
I am a nothing carrying nothing
A burden never asked for
Sitting on a park step
Dreaming of the day I'll deserve
The time to dream
The man who loves me
And all the oppurtunities my parents gave me

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

2 years ago from my perspective

Two years ago today I got a call from Richard at the LGBT center. I
was at the time a producer on the now defunct out at the center. He
wanted to know if I would be okay with covering a marriage equality
New York rally instead of the Aids Walk. I agreed to do it.

I met Chris my partner in crime for the day at his Brooklyn Heights
apartment and we made our way to Cadman Plaza for the rally.

The Gender Offenders performed, I'd known Candy Samples from having
lived in Queens and then this really cute blonde with a guitar got up
and started to create a trumpet with his voice. Then he sang a song a
cappela. What struck me was his adorable quiet demure Midwestern boy
smile and shrug leading into these incredible performances. I knew I
had to meet him.

I approached him at the tent for performers and introduced myself
through my centre credentials. I asked if he had a list because I was
too shy to ask for his contact info and thought I'd go see him
perform. He didn't have a list. I walked away.

Chris asked me what the hell I was thinking. You like him right, I
said yeah he has an amazing smile. I went back and my life has only
continued to get better since.

His smile

Konstantine Malakos
Loose Marbles Productions
347-604-1503
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Thursday, May 14, 2009

Vinyl

Rob and I got a turntable a couple weeks ago. I love it, I used to use
my parents back home. It really forces you to really listen to an
album it's music for the pre add world. I am currently working on
putting together a complete Julie Andrews collection. I now have The
Boy Friend, Camelot, Mary Poppins, Thoroughly Modern Millie,
Cinderella, and My Fair Lady on it's way ( thank you eBay )

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Me and my six

The Bunnies are Coming

Easter is this weekend. For those of you who believe I need a new calendar I am a non practicing non believing, non Greek Orthodox meaning I pay lip service to the most important Christian holiday on a different week than most. Does anyone know what that means? Baking I spent the better part of my day today making bread and the best part is I didnt fuck it up this year, so everyone please pat me on the back, you have no idea how big of a feat this was.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

I used to love coffee shops

When I was in high school I thought coffee shops were the greatest
places in the world. I grew up in a small town where I knew everyone
yet they seemed to attract a secret town one I didn't know. This town
was intellectual, radical and artistic. I loved every tale of an art
piece made from menstrual blood or a happening involving a picnic in a
metered parking spot. I loved the coffee though it was usually over
roasted I loved that forty year old lesbians who happened to have
hairy armpits (I'm not suggesting all lesbians do) would treat me like
an adult. The smallish university town coffee house truly was town
hall to freakdom. In the city you lose that, spending ages in bars. I
sit in a bistro with over roasted espresso made from an improperly
cleaned machine and it makes me think of when I was a teenage
radical.

Monday, April 13, 2009

Join me in a boycott Amazon

Amazon just changed their rules, they decided to remove sales rankings from all adult content so they don't appear in subject searches to protect the children. This seems to be okay until you discover what they are categorizing as adult and what they are not. A book about exercises to having a larger penis not adult. A picture book called my two moms adult. What? This is serious almost all gay titles including the advocates guide to choosing a GLBT friendly college and Ellen Degeneres' autobiography are too adult to appear in category searches but certain sex books are not. One gay related book that wasn't deemed adult is a parents guide to preventing homosexuality. Does anyone else smell something foul in Denmark?


Saturday, April 11, 2009

April flowers

April showers may bring May flowers
But this photo I took this week shows we have flowers already so fuck
that

Life

The only consistency is change
The only truth is that truth is a lie
The only hope is in defeat
The only dream is reality
The only reality is dreams

Welcome

So I bit the bullet and started a blog. Welcome to the new world of my
creation. This is the land where all Loose Marbles go.