A month to the wedding

With all the political activism in new York complete I find myself about a month away from my wedding. My nuptial hour draws on apace/ but oh how slow the old moon wanes. Don't get me wrong we have plenty to do (and spend on) between now and then. We severely limited our guest list so that we could afford to do something nice for those we did invite. We focused only on those who have been firm supporters since we came out in our families and friends we've known for several years. This means our wedding will be intimate and full of support. We are having an eleven am church service at the metropolitan comunity church presided over by reverend Pat Bumgardner. Reverend Pat has been performing spiritual ceremonies for gay and lesbian couples since the seventies and has been at every protest for marriage equality in new York she could possibly make. Shes a rockstar in the movement and she's marrying us. We will exchange rings designed by a close friend Ashley Stevens, shes brilliant and you need to look her up on etsy. We will also go through the Greek Orthodox tradition of Stefana, a ritual crowning involving two crowns tied by a ribbon. The crowns are blessed then placed on the couples heads crowning them as joined by god the crowns are then interchanged over their heads by an attendant and they are led on a procession around the alter. It is the (pardon the pun) crowning moment of an orthodox ceremony. After the service were going to a French bistro for a private brunch. A friend Jennie Mouio is making our cake. In the evening were having a very casual ( read plastic cups) cocktail party which will be broader, all our local friends who we wanted at the brunch but had to be pragmatic can come wish us well and have a drink or two. Us, my uncle and mother mother will make food to put out. Researching weddings it was very herd to find advice that wasn't bride centric and or, from our perspective overblown. For us the wedding is about being with loved ones, and joining our lives,everything else is secondary. I can't wait to be married. Then it will be time to work on DOMA so our marriage will still exist when we leave the state.